Some Great Sex Questions Answered
Too touchy in public
By Steve & Mia Weekender Wire Services
Q : I dearly love my boyfriend and enjoy his affection, but he has this habit of carrying things too far in public. Sometimes he puts his hands all over me. It’s embarrassing. But when I push his hands away, he gets all pouty and hurt, and the evening is ruined. How should I handle this?
A : Mia: PDA (public displays of affection) can be annoying, but he is just trying to show his “luuurve” for you. The next time he gets too friendly when you’re out on the town, sexily whisper in his ear, “Save those hands until later when I can really put them to use.”That will get him hot and bothered without hurting his feelings.
Steve: Also gently remind him that a good relationship has equal partners. our feelings are as important as his, and he shouldn’t want to make you uncomfortable.
Q : Why is it with sex, women can limit you sexually (oral, no oral, etc.), but a man has to come with the sex secrets of King Solomon?
A : Steve: King Solomon had sex secrets? Did he write them down anywhere? Honestly, no woman ever asked me for sex secrets. aybe I’m just not the kind of guy anyone would think to ask a question like that. Now you’ve depressed me.
Mia: Secrets? I think most women are just looking for the same thing as men - enthusiasm and willingness to experiment. And if you don’t get that in a partner, then I suggest you keep looking.
Q : I was at a friend’s house Saturday night to watch two boxing matches. He had several other friends there, one other woman and four men. We all chatted and had a good time.
Today, my friend told me that one of the guys is interested in me and wanted to know what my situation is. I’m 32 and single, and this guy is older than me. I’d say he’s at least 43. I am not even slightly intrigued by the guy. Should I politely tell my friend I’m not interested?
A : Steve: In a word, yes. “Mercy” dating just to appease a friend is always a bad idea.
Mia: In my experience, even the most expensive dinner tastes lousy if you’re eating it with someone you don’t like. So don’t bother. You’ll only waste an evening and annoy your friend.
Q : A few weeks ago, I farted during sex with my girlfriend. She didn’t say anything, but now I feel really weird around her, and I’m worried that she doesn’t want to have sex with me anymore. What should I do?
A : Mia: Bummer. I hope she wasn’t near the area when it happened. Unfortunately, you can’t control your body all the time, and I’m sure your girlfriend knows that. Seduce her with some really wonderful lovemaking tonight. I’m sure that will push the gas out of her mind.
Steve: Well, that’s not as bad as taking her out to a club and then flirting with someone else. It’s embarrassing, but if she doesn’t mention it, you should be fine.
This is a great little colum out of the Times Leader. I will have to try and check back to this every now and again for updates. Hopefully it should be updated at least weekly. I will try and keep you up to date.